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Relief for the Procrastinating Blues

January 2004 

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What's On Your Plate?

Procrastination is often a signal that there are too many other things occupying your mind. It isn't that you don't want to get a particular task accomplished, it's that there simply isn't enough time. If this is true for you, then the solution is clear. Take it off your immediate to-do list, ask someone else to do it, or schedule it for a time that is reasonable and realistic. The relief you'll feel will be immediate.

The "If-Then" Tango

It's easy to blame others for something not being accomplished. "If only I had gotten that promotion, then I would be more involved in my job." "If only my husband would take out the garbage, I would have time to do the things I need to do." "If I had a faster computer I would find more enjoyment in sitting down to write the report." When someone selectively focuses on one reason, they're making an attempt to shift the responsibility for their life to someone, or something, else. In the long run, owning that we are the architects of our life is both empowering and motivating. If you find yourself doing the "If -then" tango, use it as a hint to put control back into your hands. Ask yourself, "What action can I take to move towards what I want?"

What If You're Just Not In The Mood?

At times we're all faced with tasks that are just plain unpleasant. It may be having an uncomfortable conversation, facing a difficult decision, or taking care of a task we don't feel competent in doing. It's easy to put off what we know isn't going to be a picnic. Unfortunately, the reason for the task rarely disappears. It continues to lurk at the back of our mind. Before we know it, the task seems to follow us like a ten-ton elephant on our heels.

So what do you do? It's simple really: First turn your attention away from how unpleasant you think the situation is going to be, and the negative mind-chatter that has kept you immobilized. Now start asking yourself questions that will support you in seeing the value of taking action. Good questions to use are:

"What is true for me in this situation?"
"By taking action, what will I gain?"
"How will I feel once I've taken action?"

Finally, ask yourself, "I'm willing to take action by __________" Write this sentence down, filling in the date. You'll be surprised at how the previous discomfort melts away and is replaced with confidence and motivation.

 

Why Wait To Celebrate?

Reward and celebration are powerful, compelling motivators. The problem is, we don't get enough of them. Don't wait to celebrate. Pat yourself on the back, take a break, even say "Good job!" out loud at each step you complete. Here's a novel and energizing concept: Reward yourself for the effort, not the result.

So what are you waiting for? Isn't there something that has been waiting for your attention? Take action now, reward yourself for the effort, and enjoy the surge of energy you feel!

At A Glance....

Procrastination isn't a demon, just a signal that a task doesn't fit with our sense of priorities, control, skills, or comfort level. Here are 4 ways to get unstuck and start moving!

1. Break the task down into smaller pieces.

2. Take a stand.  Tell a friend or your coach that you plan to finish a job by a certain date. Make your project a public endeavor rather than keeping it to yourself. It helps to gain the support of others when you feel stymied.

3. Just get started.  You don't have to wait until you feel inspired to write that speech. Just write whatever comes to mind, and you can revise it later. A journey begins with one small step.

4. Look at all you have accomplished.  Rather than punishing yourself for not having done enough, take the more positive approach of examining all that you have done. Don't let the fact that your "to-do" list may be longer than your "I did it" list stop you from celebrating what you've accomplished so far.


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